Dishonesty is a quality few people can tolerate, especially in relationships. After all, how can you truly open your heart to someone who refuses to be honest and transparent? One California woman learned this firsthand during a date at a restaurant. She and the man had already spent nearly two hours together, likely getting to know each other before ordering food and drinks. They selected her favorite wine and continued their conversation—until he abruptly revealed a shocking truth: he was already married.
Understandably furious, the California woman grabbed the bottle of wine and stormed out. She had originally snapped a photo of it—with him visible in the background—because she loved the Rombauer brand and wanted to share it with a friend.
However, after the date took an unexpectedly disastrous turn, she decided the picture belonged on r/mildlyinfuriating. Before leaving the restaurant, however, she made sure to clarify exactly what he meant by “I’m married.”
“No, they’re not divorced—or even separated—and he’s not a widower. He actually went so far as to say she isn’t allowed to date, but he is. I truly can’t make this up,” she groaned.
In other words, by his own admission, the man appeared to be in a one-sided open marriage: he was free to pursue other women, while his wife was expected to remain faithful. Although he eventually acknowledged that he was married, failing to disclose that fact from the outset was undeniably dishonest—and deeply disrespectful to his date.
Redditors Believed the California Woman Was Lucky to Have Learned About The Man’s Marriage So Soon
At the very least, she walked away with a glass of wine—assuming she wasn’t the one footing the bill. “I’m from around the way, I’M LEAVIN’ WITH SOMETHING,” she wrote in the comments. Meanwhile, others fixated on what they saw as his rather revealing outfit choice for the date. “Dude’s dressed like he’s expecting his wife to be at the same place,” one Redditor observed. “A hat on indoors at a restaurant,” another added. A third joked, “I would’ve found his wife on socials and DM’d her along with the pic.”
Several others recounted similarly troubling dating experiences with people who identified as polyamorous. One woman recalled, “I texted him the next day to tell him that his behavior was deeply inappropriate and made me feel as though he were auditioning me to help him cheat on his girlfriend.”
While open marriages aren’t exactly rare, withholding such a significant detail is wrong—especially until two hours into a date. Still, some people viewed his confession as a “blessing in disguise.” As one commenter put it, “The bright side is: at least this guy told you now rather than eight months in—or not at all…”
